12/14/15

WHAT YOU HATE, WHAT YOU EMBRACE, WHAT YOU CONQUER? Now that you are already a married couple, you know already your strengths and weaknesses and everything. Now, I'll ask you? What are the things you hate when you are together? When you started to live in a one house? Do you have things to hate to? How do you handle those things?



 WHAT YOU HATE, WHAT YOU EMBRACE, WHAT YOU CONQUER....



Now that you are already a married couple, you know already your strengths and weaknesses and everything. Now, I'll ask you? What are the things you hate when you are together? When you started to live in a one house? Do you have things to hate to? How do you handle those things?

Well, of course we are all not perfect right? We sometimes get mad; we have different kind of mode that is why we are unique… Sometimes we are happy to the things we do and sometimes we get angry to what we heard or what we see…But, still we are human that can handle these kinds of attitude…

I just want to share with you the things I hate most since the day that I live with my husband. Actually before, we are just girlfriend and boyfriend as I said in my other post. I came that time from Davao and He let me lived in their house for I have no family to live with somewhere in Laguna. So, though I really don’t want to stay in their house, still, I was pushed to live there just for him and to be with him because it was almost 3 years of connecting through long distance relationship and that made us so depress and we missed each other so much…So, we just gave ourselves a try and a chance to be with each other again after how many years of not seeing each other. Who am I not to give a chance for a deserving person like him right? So from that time, I heard other rumor that against my ears. I mean, the things I hated so much… You know the rumor of, “why we are living in one house where in fact we are not yet marry”. I HATE IT SO MUCH…
They even didn’t know the plans that we made of marrying someday.
I was just living there for the sake of my husband,
for the sake of our love…
Can’t they just realize the 3years that passed for not seeing each other?
Can’t they just realize the things we suffered?
Those times when my husband cried lots of tears
for wanting to see me and so am I?
Can’t they just realize that I have no family to live with in this city?
If they just know then how my heart was so against living there,
but still pushed to live just for those sakes,
And just thinking that this is just temporary…
But you know, when you are not in your house,
And you are just living as stranger in the house…
You have no choice...I have no choice!
And I have to live with him and them...
Embraced the noise in my ears...
The rumors and the shame...
I HATED IT...BUT I EMBRACED IT…

Then here comes the wedding day!
We’re so excited!
Finally we’re married!
But still big challenges followed…
And I HATED IT...I HATED IT…
Still, living with them…
When I and my husband started to bond, cleaning the house…
Washing our clothes each other and he did things that are not so proper to me at all?
I HATED IT…
True, we girls know the proper things to do,
the right way cleaning that and this…
But my husband, like the other boys in town,
doesn’t know how to handle things accurately…
So I helped him to make things right…
Though sometimes I get mad at him for doing it wrong…again and again…
but still I persisted to teach him the certain things
on how to do this and how to do that…
But sad is that, other people misunderstand my actions,
and making me MEAN..
But hey, CANT they just realize that my husband is my twin now?
And I have the right also to teach him the things he doesn’t know?
Can’t they just understand that we are husband and wife,
and that we have equal rights to teach and to right each other’s mistakes?
Can’t they just understand that if I don’t love him
then I just let him do the rest of the chores without me helping him?
Can’t they just realize that if I don’t love him
then I just let him wash his clothes after his work?
If they only know how I love and respect my husband so much despite of what I heard…
If they only realize how I always wanted him
to become smart everything that he doesn’t know,
I always wanted to be his trainer just like in a basketball game,
for I am his buddy now, not just a wife…
If they just only know that I am also afraid of my husband when he gets mad..
He turns into Hulk…? I HATE THAT.
I HATE every time he turns into that kind of character,
I am afraid. I mean so AFRAID…
I don’t want my husband to get angry…
Especially to get mad to the people who provoke me…
Mostly that’s the reason why we always quarreled for the last years…
I HATED IT…I HATED IT before when we were like that..
WE HATED IT…BUT WE EMBRACED IT..AND WE CONQUERED IT!…

Yes, we conquered it all; there are still other family members that are so good to me… Especially his mom and dad…
They always understand…and I thank for them.
For their understanding in the end is extremely great!
I thank for his family..cause before we left, we are all OKEY!
I and my husband decided to live in our own…
Away from noise and chaos…
To have peace in our mind and in our hearts…
Finally he made a decision too…
And I thought that was the best thing to do..
So we did!
And now we are living happily in our own..
In our own little ways that we like and we love..
We come up to a realization that all things that happened to us still have purpose in our lives..
We are now stronger and better couple…
Of course with God’s help…
We always put God in our hearts
 for without God there's no us..
And we thank for the people who criticized our abilities…
God knows our heart and our own little strategies…
God knows who you are…
May God bless you all…
And to you readers...
Be blessed by our story..
Thank You for reading!



--------teacher jing---------